5 Reasons to Schedule Sex this Holiday Season

Buy Christmas gifts. Decorate the Christmas tree. Grocery Shopping. Gingerbread house. Cookie baking. Company Christmas Party… and the list goes on. But is sex on the list? Do you have that scheduled this week? 

Most people don’t. It’s not considered sexy by many. However neither is the frustration that comes with a sexless marriage. It may seem like the spontaneity becomes lost in the relationship once you begin scheduling sex, but here are 5 reasons you should be scheduling sex this season: 

1.It gives you something to look forward to.

Studies show that the anticipation and planning of a vacation create more happiness than the actual vacation itself. I believe that this is because we love having things to look forward to. This season can be busy and stressful, but having a time set aside that you know you and your partner are going to connect physically and emotionally can help alleviate some of that stress.

2.Sex alleviates stress.

With all that you have on your to-do list this season it can be incredibly stressful, but sex is a physical way to alleviate stress and the added bonus is that you are also connecting with your partner. The cortisol flush you get when you orgasm helps to relieve stress. 

3.The anticipation can be a major turn on.

When you are anticipating on the connection with your partner and vice versa it can lead to some fun, playful, and racy communication. Fun text messages, flirtation, and physical playfulness is a major turn on that keeps you connected between your scheduled sex session. 

4.Scheduling sex shows that your physical relationship with your partner is a priority.

We schedule doctor and dentist appointments, and we even leave work early and fight traffic to get there, and those are the things that we don’t even necessarily want to do! When you talk about making your sex life a priority with your partner that communication is connective and lets them know that even though life is busy, it’s not too busy to prioritize the most important relationship in your life. 

5.Scheduled sex often leads to more spontaneous sex.

I get that you may not always be in the mood, but once you get going it feels like less 

of a chore, I promise! Having a time to regularly connect physically means that you are increasing those good hormones that sex creates and you’ll likely find yourself wanting sex more often. The female libido is much different than the male libido, and women take a little longer to warm up, so talking about and making sure you have more foreplay before you do the deed will create more satisfaction and enjoyment.

I’m not sure what you’re still doing here - go schedule some sex with your partner! Remember that just because sex is scheduled doesn’t mean it has to be boring or routine. Do things to spice it up, play, and have fun with your partner. 

If you’re having trouble getting things going in the bedroom, and are afraid that there’s issues that are running too deep to even get to a place where you’re able to schedule sex, I totally get it, and I’m totally here for you! Don’t hesitate to reach out and schedule a free, 15-minute phone consultation.